A DEEPER LEVEL OF UNDERSTANDING

HELLO EVERYONE:

On Friday Jan. 16/2015 on page 24 of the Toronto Sun newspaper, ASK AMY printed an article that she entitled, --- "Always dating Mr. Wrong."   Amy's advice to "Dear Looking" was at best ineffective and otherwise obtuse. 

Let me set it up for you in a different form because here on this blog we don't have to conform to the limitations of space as one must do in a newspaper.  After all, advertising comes first.

First of all, the lady in question is in her early thirties and wants to find a man in response to her biological inner time clock that is in stress mode as she approaches her 40's.   These feelings are not only normal but they are exemplary also.

However, because she has waited so long, her choices are rather limited.   Her latest "loser" is already married with multiple children, a bad economic situation and a nasty temper and yet, in her words, he has found another woman to share his life with.   

He sent her a text message saying that she was too fast for him and that he was moving on.  "Still looking" is wasting her time blaming herself for this dilemma.   

What he really meant was that he was looking for someone who he could take advantage of and she wanted to get married and have a baby and that is what he was referring to when he said that she was "too fast" for him.

She should send him the following text message:

Hello to my Ex.

Thank you for getting me out of a wasted relationship with you.  My concerns are for the poor woman who has accepted you under the false belief that you can help her with her situation when in reality you want to be able to lean on someone indefinitely.   Please do me the honor of never trying to get in touch with me again.  

Signed, "The Winner."  

Of course the other problem here is that the lady has waited too long to find a mate.  Perhaps she wanted to establish a good career and be economically stable before starting a marriage and although these thoughts have value they also carry burdens with them which this lady has been experiencing with her potential "boy friends."

My younger brother found the perfect girl for him and they were in their late thirties.  On a dare, she phoned him and suggested a date.  I believe you, [Dear Looking], have to consider such a bold move on your part also. 

If a man is still single in his thirties, among many reasons for this situation to occur, one of them could be a high level of shyness.   Men in particular can be overcome by the fear of rejection and this  can lead to a lack of confidence when it comes to asking an individual of the opposite sex to go out on a date with them.

It's time for a little bit of humor here.  This Russian comic was on stage doing his act when he informed his audience that he was going to get married in the near future.  

Someone in the audience called out: --- "Have you got a date."   The comic replied as follows:  "This is what I like about America.  Here I am about to get married and I am allowed to bring a date with me to my wedding."

The next date you have young lady, let it be at your suggestion.  I think females can take rejection better than men but since I am only a man, perhaps I am wrong.

That leads me to this question.  If I think that I am good enough to give better advice than someone like, --- DEAR AMY, why did I spend all those years driving a taxi?

Maybe I was wrong, maybe I should have got a better job, but I wanted to concentrate all of my skills on learning how the human mind functions so I could write a book that would give my fellow travelers through this life a better chance at happiness and knowledge which in reality go hand in hand.  Thank you for your personal perseverance in your determination to read this elongated blog Post.