The ideas that I am about to express are as important as
a teaching priority in our schools as is the simple act of learning to read and
write. We have to teach our children,
especially our young men, that the fear of [romantic] rejection is not the be all and end all
of life.
It is truly unfortunate that a myriad, or large
number, of ideas have given credence to
ideas that should now be swept aside.
One of those ideas is the one that says that a certain partner is the
only one for me.
There is much beauty and poetic value to such an ideal
but it also carries with it the seeds of violence including suicide. It is with some regret that I must
acknowledge that as the more aggressive of the two sexes, it is the masculine
personality that is more adversely affected by this fear of rejection.
Nevertheless, with a level of passivity taken into
account, the fear of rejection is as time consuming and devastating in its
effect on the female population, as it is on its male counterpart
As an example, one of my acquaintances reiterated a
personal part of his life where a young woman rejected his advances. Although horribly devastated at the time,
this acquaintance of mine stated that years later when he saw the young lady in
person once more, she had lost her youthful physical charm and was now a 300
pound behemoth.
He related to me how he stood there in awe thanking
his lucky stars that the lady in question had decided long ago to reject
him. It is not my intention to ridicule
another member of the human race, but it is my intention or desire to reduce
the level of depression and/or anger involved for the man in particular, when
such rejection occurs.
Obviously in my other story about the young couple who
may or may not have been the victims of a suicidal impulse, if that indeed was
the case, and in other instances it certainly can become the case; then the
idealistic attitude that there is only one possible person in the whole world
who could be one's soul-mate, is a failure to accept reality to the extent that it
could lead to the end of life for one or both of the said individuals involved
in this most personal of life’s moments.
While the example described earlier, involves physical
appearances, other problems of various natures can become self-evident to the
rejected individual if indeed that individual has the discipline to allow the
passage of time to imprint upon that individual the value that is to be gained from
time itself. Even if the person, who is doing the rejecting,
becomes the heart-throb that one has perceived with one’s inner eye; the idea
that another mate can also be that very special person retains all of its
potential for reality.
In other more simplified terms, the rejection that is
tearing at the very fabric of ones life in the turbulent years of adolescence,
can become the defining moments of strength in one’s later years. Especially if the pressures of time can be alleviated
inside the mind of the aggrieved individual, in this all too often aspect of
the maturing process for all of us as we travel through the minefield of
adolescent behavior.
To simplify this situation even further, I am trying
to alleviate the pressures involved for those who experience rejection and end
up losing their lives to the insidious nature of this all encompassing fear of
rejection.
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